Middle bean….

Posted by georgieporgie on April 28, 2008

I am…. well to be honest …I don’t know where to start! I am very disappointed, we have a lot going on here at the house and I got a phone call today that I didn’t want to get…

Middle bean was given the option of playing Basketball vs Volleyball today in PE…he chose Volleyball…the PE teachers allowed some banter(that of which middle bean par-took in) to go on…when I say banter, those are not my words those are the dreaded words I heard on the phone today…

We can all define banter right? Well is banter OK in a public school system? My bestie would say this is flat out wrong banter=bullies…

At any rate middle bean racked the crap out of another bean today at school-because of this banter that was allowed. I am very sad my middle bean would touch another bean in any way shape or form…but he did and I get the call…

So in our situation banter consisted of a lil bit of “oh you guys suck” “we can do better” etc…then it escalated to one on one meaning my middle bean vs another bean  & words were exchanged, then the dreaded “rack” occured-I would later find out those words were of “Yo Mama” type words…meaning this lil bean said “I spent the  night with YO mama and she rocked my world” my middle bean didn’t take kindly to that remark…..I giggled and said “son…where was I last night? You know that what that bean said wasn’t true, I was with your dad last night…so what’s the big deal?” It didn’t matter to middle bean, to him this other bean had disrespected me and deserved the rack…

He should have been expelled but they know me and I work there and I am sure they gave him the benefit of doubt so his punishment would be one day in sac….one day in sac?

Do you know what sac is? Well sac is, for the students/beans who um fight, do drugs and drink alcohol(and get caught on school grounds-yep beans do this in the 6th-8th grade, still amazes me tho’) skip detention, (this is where I would like to inter-jeck and say hellions BUT I can not judge another bean for his/her position in “sac”)….the kids who just don’t give a damn….(my bean has NO place in this world of sac)I call it prison-because they are in a room with no interaction,they do their work with no instruction and they eat lunch before all the other students and basically they are labeled-can you believe my middle bean will be labeled?  This goes on his school record! Well….it is what is-he screwed up….made a wrong decision and now he will have to pay the consequences-do you know how much this pains me? 

I made the decision to have him spend the maximum in sac because 1) I am plantin roots 2) it is in his best interest that if he does the crime he does the time and I expect him to learn something from this! 3)well um this is so not how I roll…

Now my middle bean is faced with three days of sac…as hard as it was for me -I knew they were going to give him special treatment because I work there BUT I had to insist he be treated like any other student/bean… one day of sac would not be enough….the max will be 3 days and so be it…he gets 3 days….

Oh I heard it all from him… now my grades will go down all because of you-(his lowest grade is I believe a 99%)  to: I can’t believe you are going to put me in sac for 3 days…I really had NO choice and I don’t scream,yell or say anything other than how disapointed I am…I know I have typed this before IT IS NOT THAT YOU ARE BETTER, BUT YOU ARE SMARTER THAN THAT!!! Was my response and I walk away and let mr gp talk to him. I think that got to him the most that I didn’t freak out…I just said I was disapointed…

With all that said middle bean is grounded/on restriction for 30 days, meaning he can watch TV and thats all…no pc,no celly,no besties nights here OR there,no xbox/ps3…to him his life is over…us adults know better…right?

He was a super sweetheart tonight helping out with ena going to and from oldest beans play-he helped her in and out of the car…He even went and shook the Vice Principle’s hand and apologized for what happend and said they would have NO problems from him next year…Oh I can hope….Lord knows I don’t ever want another phone call like I got today…I was proud of him, he did this before the play, in front of other adults.

I love him and I had to make a very hard decsion today, one I hope I never have to make again….but I am not one of those parents that says….”not my bean” so I suppose one day I will be typing about another one of his bad choices, because, well, that is life and how are they to learn IF they don’t make mistakes…right?

Oldest bean just got home-she has a new boy friend and I so need the distraction…she says “mom he has the prettiest eyes….”

My confession for tonight….I gotta go find out about mr pretty eyes….